Surviving Marks and Scars

I look down at my hand and see the mark. It’s a reminder of my depression.

I couldn’t manage the emotions driving me down, driving me deep. I needed something to stop them or stunt them, if just for a moment.

So I took the cigarette from my mouth and pressed it against my skin. My once-soft-and-perfect baby skin, free from scar, free from scratch, buckled beneath the heat. The skin crumbled; it folded inward on itself. A sign of what was happening to me.

Today I’m years away from that season, but I still bear the mark. I suppose I always will.

Life marks us in ways we do not deserve or expect. It did for Sherry.

Sherry is a single mom with two kids. She was laid off from her job. A week later she was told she had breast cancer.

This past April, Sherry was marked in a way unthinkable for a woman–by a double mastectomy. And in June, she’ll begin eight months of chemotherapy.

Oh how life marks us in ways we do not deserve or expect.

But there’s a bright side for Sherry. Perhaps this season will be marked by more than cancer and loss.

My friends are raising money to pay for eight months’ of Sherry’s living expenses while she’s receiving treatment. The goal is $10,000.


Here are some ways you can help:

  • Buy a t-shirt. The cost is $20 each. Sizes are Adult S-XL. The color is royal blue. Cost of shirts were paid for by sponsors, so all proceeds go to Sherry. Shirts can be shipped if you add $5 for shipping. Click on the Donate button below, enter the total amount, and email Kevin & Amy at with the size of shirts and shipping address.
  • Donate online. Please note that your donation is not tax deductible. Click below to donate.


The official t-shirt worn by Sherry's daughter, Kylie

The official t-shirt worn by Sherry’s daughter, Kylie


Back of the t-shirt with shirt sponsors. All money goes directly to Sherry.

Back of the t-shirt with shirt sponsors. All money goes directly to Sherry.

With your help, we can mark this season with love for Sherry. And when she looks back years from now, she’ll remember how a community came around her, more than she sees her scars.

You’d want the same.

Chris Heinz is the Founder and CEO of Munyay, which creates coaching tools to help you love your life and work. He's also the Vice President of Human Resources for EnergyCAP, Inc. and is an Associate Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation, a Certified Professional Life Coach, and a Certified Gallup Strengths Coach. Chris enjoys coaching people, writing, and speaking on the topics of engagement, coaching, and strengths. He blogs often at

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3 thoughts on “Surviving Marks and Scars

  1. Hi Chris !! Remember me ?? Rachel and Beka ‘s mom and wife of retired Dr. Steve ? The tribute you wrote about Sherry and her situation moved me to tears !! Sherry’s sister , Jen, is my next door neighbor … We are praying for all of the family during this challenging time … Thank God for your gifts and talents … Love to your family and your parents , Joan Held