Praise the God of the Fatherless

When my wife and I got married, we had plans for a big family.

It didn’t take long and soon she was pregnant. We had Asia nine months later.

But the next child took longer, years in fact. We thought something was wrong with us. We met with a fertility specialist. After a series of tests, she came back with her diagnosis—there was nothing wrong with either of us. The doctor called it “unexplained infertility.”

Unexplained infertility? What were we supposed to do with that? There was no clear problem to solve, and with no clear problem to solve, there was no way to fix it. And with no way to fix it, I had nothing to do. I felt useless.

Our friends were having babies left and right. They didn’t mean to conceive, but oh, it happened again. Teenagers were getting pregnant; delinquents were becoming parents. Why couldn’t we have a baby? We weren’t getting any younger.

We felt hopeless. But then I read Psalm 68:5–6, “God is a Father to the fatherless and sets the lonely in families.”

I remember walking outside and looking into the night. I saw the stars shining like bits of glass in the sky. Every star had its own beginning. Every star had its current place. God planned them all. Maybe God was the cause of our unexplained infertility!

A shocking thought. But this gets to the heart of what praise is, and what praise does.

The prayer of praise is declaring the truth about who God is, what he has done, or what he has promised to do. In the prayer of praise, you proclaim God’s identity, his deeds, and his promises. It’s who God is, what he has done, and what God says he will do.

There are many benefits of praise, but I’ll mention just one. Did you ever notice that when things go wrong, they take control? The broken water softener gets the upper hand. The prodigal son becomes your obsession. You can’t get pregnant. But in reality, God’s still on the throne.

Let me tell you, praise restores your understanding to the proper order. That is, praise puts things in the right perspective. So, it was possible that God caused our unexplained infertility.

He is the father of the fatherless.

So we began the adoption process, and although it took years, one day we traveled to the Philippines. The phone in our hotel room rang. They were ready for us–Rex was ready for us.

Normally, he would be playing in the trash, roping the tire, dodging the glass. Napping in the street, peeing in the puddle, running from robbers. He’d scavenge for leftovers behind the stores and restaurants. And he’d want to be rocked to sleep in soft, firm arms.

But God had other plans.

When we met him, we noticed his big bright eyes like fantastic stars. We praised the God who puts the lonely into families. God cared enough to shut my wife’s womb because he saw that this boy needed a family, and in time, we would understand what we were to do. And we did.

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photo by Heidi Lynne Photography

So that night, for the first time, we rocked our boy to sleep with a song. He slept soundly with no fear of danger, like a child should.

And soon we’ll hold Asher in our arms, too.

Praise the God of the fatherless.

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Chris Heinz is the Founder and CEO of Munyay, which creates coaching tools to help you love your life and work. He's also the Vice President of Human Resources for EnergyCAP, Inc. and is an Associate Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation, a Certified Professional Life Coach, and a Certified Gallup Strengths Coach. Chris enjoys coaching people, writing, and speaking on the topics of engagement, coaching, and strengths. He blogs often at

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8 thoughts on “Praise the God of the Fatherless

  1. shared this three times … with my nieces who were called by God to bring three lonely ones into their own families. as always, your writing expresses the Father’s heart and so often it makes mine sing. thanks, chris. adoption is the Father’s glory! i can’t wait to meet asher!

  2. Hey Chris, Great story. God is really good.

    Here’s our story. We couldn’t have children and we were told that we never would because each of us had a problem. We tried everything and then we adopted and as we were sitting in the courtroom to make it all legal, we said we wanted another child.

    While the process was moving forward my wife got pregnant. We were amazed as were the doctors. But they told us that wont happen again. But she really wanted a girl and she began to pray for a girl. It took five years but one day she asked me to take a sample to the doctor I was visiting on my sales call and I gave it to the nurse on my call. I knew she couldn’t be pregnant but I went along. Sure enough the nurse came back and said, “You are pregnant” I was stunned but my wife wasn’t. She had her girl and what a girl she was and is. She loves the Lord and so do her three children.

    Telling you this because I understand.

    Blessings my friend,

    • Wow, Jack, that’s an amazing story. God is so faithful and into great surprises, isn’t he? Thanks for sharing this testimony of God’s active hand.

  3. What a wonderful newsletter! I felt so inspired and so peaceful while reading your words Chris. What a blessing. All God’s best to you and your beautiful growing family!!!