Death Is In The Air and It Stinks

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I’ve been thinking about death lately. Before I get to that, a quick story.

My wife Colette is a hairdresser. A few times she has touched up the hair of the deceased. Well, one time Colette gave a perm to a client. A few days later, the client died.

Colette was called in to refresh her hair for the funeral. When Colette saw the client’s husband, he said, “Bad timing on the perm.” At least he didn’t ask for his money back.

It seems like death is in the air. Yesterday we went to Colette’s uncle’s funeral in Massachusetts. He had been snow blowing his driveway, had a massive heart attack, and died. But that’s not all:

  • On our trip to Massachusetts, we passed a sign for Sandy Hook and Newtown, Connecticut. We had passed this sign so many times before, but now these words mean something to me.
  • On our trip, we heard that my grandma fell and broke her hip. She’s alright, but has to have surgery. It’s risky for an 85 year-old to go under anesthesia. My other grandma had the same thing happen and she never recovered.
  • When I talked to my friend about my grandma, he said his dad died that morning.

Death is in the air and it stinks. None of us escape it. Neither do our loved ones. That might be the harder truth.

However, the good thing about death is its ability to motivate. Death can breathe fresh perspective and reorder priorities. When you know death is coming, it can recharge the way you live.

When we die, we don’t get a do-over. I believe in heaven and hell, but they’re not do-overs. They’re consequences of how we lived in this life, so:

  • Resolve your walk with God now. The Bible says no one comes to the Father except through Jesus Christ (John 14.6). If you don’t receive Christ in this life, it’ll be too late when you die. (If you want to talk about this, email me at CS@CSHeinz.com.)
  • Give your attention to the person in front of you. Be mindful of who you’re with, and be with whomever is in front of you. Put down the electronic device and talk.
  • Show your loved ones that you love them. In writing class, the teacher emphasized, “Show not tell.” Don’t just tell the reader something—show them. So with your loved ones, don’t just tell them you love them, show them. And do it often.
  • Find your passions and pursue them. Discover what you’re good at, what you love to do, and what makes the world a better place. Then go after it. Life is too short for passionless living.
  • Practice forgiveness. Regret and bitterness are heavy burdens to carry through life, but they’re heavier after the grave. Give the gift of forgiveness while you still can.

While I’m still living, I want to live like that. How about you?

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Chris believes we're all looking for purpose and joy at work. He's the Vice President of Human Resources for EnergyCAP, Inc., where he helps employees to succeed. He's also a Certified Professional Life Coach and a Certified Gallup Strengths Coach. He loves to coach people, write, and speak around the topics of engagement, coaching, strengths, and growth. He blogs often at ChrisHeinz.com.

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